As I looked at this article I was disappointed and wondered if reasoning like this is one of the reasons for such a high divorce rate.
At the very least it is in reaction to the high divorce rate.
The article made six points. Following are the six points and my thoughts about them.
- Because not being married doesn’t mean all alone. As much as this is a true statement is it really a reason not to get married. If one’s reason from being married is gaining an identity then in my opinion the marriage is in jeopardy before it starts. At the same time this is no reason not to get married. There is a balance to this perspective.
- Because love is a mystery. Yes… yes it is! So therefore we should not commit? This seems like faulty logic.
- Because real security comes from being known for who you are and cared for no matter what. Yes… again a true statement! Again, this is a good reason to avoid being married? This falls suit with the first point. Individuals should not be getting married to have these questions answered or holes filled.
- Because you can still have the ring. Yup! You can have all sorts of rings, and necklaces, and bracelets… Do we really get married for jewelry?
- Because you can break up. Therefore we should avoid all committed relationships? As a general rule in life; if you are asking yourself what if most of the time you will become paralyzed. Yes… to love is to risk! And. It’s worth the risk!
- Because you can always get married next year, or the next, or the next… Of course you can! An interesting point is that there are many people proposing that putting off marriage may actually be worse for people/couples. We certainly shouldn’t rush into marriage and at the same time continually putting it off for existential reasons is not good either.