One of the major premises of the book is that non-forgiveness breads anger. At a point in the book the author has the reader examine the depth of ones anger and asks six very crucial questions.
- Are you afraid to expose your shame and guilt?
- Has your anger affected your health?
- Have you been obsessed about the injury or the offender?
- Do you compare your situation with that of the offender?
- Has the injury caused a permanent change in your life?
- Has the injury changed your worldview?
I have found in my own journey that many times my ability to initially forgive is followed by the need to continually forgive and even to understand forgiveness at greater levels.
Everyone has been hurt in their past. Ask yourself these questions and give yourself and honest answer. You may be surprised by what you find.
If you are interested in the book it is entitled Forgiveness Is A Choice by Robert Enright.