There are many more obstacles for both children and parents to maneuver. Technology certainly has brought new dynamics and tensions to the family system.
As our girls continue to grow we as parents are forced to deal with these issues. As parents we see one of our major responsibilities is to invite our children into adulthood. To join them as the grow, mature, and individuate themselves from us.
My wife and I cautiously give our daughters more room to explore and expand their world.
One of the most frightening environments for me as a parent to allow our daughters access to is the online world.
The reality is that it's a big, scary, messed up world that in many ways is putting our children in danger. The last I checked that average for exposure to porn is 11. In most cases it is accidental exposure while doing homework.
With dangers like this lurking within our doors what are parents to do.
It's been my experience that parents either overreact or under-react. I believe it is necessary for us as parents to fight to find a balance of appropriateness.
With that said here are some guidelines that we use with our girls.
Start small. Instagram then moving to Twitter and so forth. In my opinion Facebook is not a safe choice for young teens.
Access. We have access to all of their accounts.
Monitor. We routinely monitor her accounts and the content. We also monitor their texting and phone use.
Others. We recruit the help of our friends and family.
Normalize. If you start with these boundaries in place it's simply part of the normal routine.