Throughout this week I have been writing about the 3 C's
1. Change your thoughts.
2. Challenge your emotions.
3. Choose your actions.
I have covered Change and Challenge in depth.
Today I will talk about the skill of choosing your actions.
This step is really the outcome of changing your thoughts and challenging your emotions.
When a person is able to accomplish the first two steps effectively there will usually be a change to their actions.
The real key to all of this is the ability to be aware of what is going on internally. Please understand that this takes a lot of practice. Individuals will struggle and fail repeatedly at these tasks. However; it certainly is worth the struggle when life happens and isn't going the way it was planned, thoughts are racing and emotions are running high.
At that moment you are able to take stock of your internal process and keep cool, calm, and collected. Then act in a way that helpful to you and to others that you are engaged with.
These skills that lead to this type of behavior are life changing.
When you are able to choose and control your actions people will take notice. People will notice the consistant nature of your behaviors.
You will no longer need to rely on increased intensity to gain or maintain control of situations where you feel out of control.
In short you will be more peaceful and in turn I believe others around you will be more at peace.
Please give these skills a try; I believe that will be life changing for you!