As we prepared for the big party anticipating family and friends coming over we had much cleaning and organizing to do. In the midst of working we instructed our daughters to clean the basement family room on Friday afternoon. They did a wonderful job! The room was cleaned, organized, and vacuumed.
On Saturday when my wife went to use the vacuum she found that it was broke. As I called our youngest daughter and questioned her about the broken state of the vacuum she reported that she knew nothing about it.
Hmmm… at this point my blood pressure started to rise. At this point I could have very easily reverted the angry yelling guy of my past. However I followed my three C’s; Cool, Calm, and Collected. We had a short conversation where she told us that the vacuum had fallen part way down the stairs.
It was at that point that the conversation took a change of direction. Children often do not tell the truth out of fear of being punished or at the very least the fear of their parents being mad.
Our response to her was very simple; accidents happen and now lets talk about being honest and telling the truth in spite of the consequences.
This is just an example of the importance of having a conversation with your children instead of yelling at them and then the importance of educating your children.
Key word = intentionality