As a therapist I know that change is hard and as a general rule most people don’t like it and try to avoid it as much as possible.
Over the past year our family has experienced much change. We have moved twice and that has meant an upheaval of routines, roles, and rituals.
It has taken us a few months to adjust to all of the newness in our lives and I suspect it will take us several more to fully adapt and make this new house our own from top to bottom and inside to outside.
Sometimes we are overwhelmed with all that needs to be done and it seems that to make this home “ours” there is an ever grown list of changes, adaptations, adjustments, and to do’s.
Each season brings a new revelation. For instance: this house has a walk out basement; we’ve never had that. I thought that we wouldn’t need a dehumidifier because we can open up windows and circulate the air. Boy was I wrong! This is the most humid basement we’ve ever had.
I bought a dehumidifier this past weekend… It hasn’t stopped running!
Of course all of these things are stressful. We continue to adjust and adapt. We get frustrated at the slow progress at times. We also get frustrated with the seemingly never ending outflow of cash all of these changes cost! We do what we can when we can do it.
That’s just life!
As my friend Joe says: “Life changes…. Adjust!” I know this is based on what his mother used to tell him. “I you don’t like something… change it!”
We all have to power to adjust and adapt. I have found that when we look at the long term big picture usually those adaptations look a bit less daunting and more achievable.