In my last my last post I introduced the 3 C's to better emotional health.
The 3 C's are: Change you thoughts; Challenge your feelings; and Choose your Behavior.
Today I will dig deeper into the first C for greater understanding.
In both Cognitive Behavioral Therapy as well as Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy there is the concept of thought changing.
Thought changing is a skill that requires much practice to perfect. It takes a great deal of intentionality and critical thinking skills. It means that we have to be aware of our thought process most if not all of the time.
In each theory thoughts play a significant role in the process that leads to our behavior. For many people this fact is the most difficult to understand.
It is my belief that most people today react out of their emotions and give very little credability to their thought processes.
This is why the first C is so important. If we want to be able to change we must first recognize our thoughts, and then work to change them.
We must also learn how our thoughts affect our emotions.
The chain of command goes like this.
1. There is an external occurance.
2. This triggers a thought (pattern).
3. Also triggering our emotions.
4. We act.
In this process if we can interupt and change our thought (patterns) we have a great chance to understand and challenge our emotional response.
Interestingly enough is that our habitual thinking also leads to our moods.
There is another chain that happens in our thought life that influences our moods.
1. Our habitual thoughts (influence).
2. Our attitude (influence).
3. Our emotions (influencing).
4. Our mood.
In this chain we can see that if we are able to change our thought process then we are able to change our mood.
In both of these series we can see that our thoughts play a critical part in our lives.
If/when we can learn to change our thoughts we will be able to experience life as we have never experienced it before.
In my next post I will look into the next C; Challenging our emotions.