In the psychotherapy world there are a couple of theories that deal with the relationship between events, thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
Those four factors are inextricably connected.
Our culture tends ignore the category of thoughts and jump straight to how we feel. I have heard it said recently that we cannot control our emotions; they just happen to us.
Even more specifically, I was listening to a local radio morning show where the question was asked. "Do we control who we fall in love with?".
Frieghteningly enough people called in saying "NO".
To me that is one of the most concerning statements I have heard.
Commonly I walk through the structure with clients that events happen to us that we cannot control. Because of these external events we have internal responses. Events lead to thoughts and feelings. Out of these thoughts and feelings we act.
So many individuals live their lives as if they are on an emotional roller coaster. Going wherever the ride leads.
Recently while working through events, thoughts, feelings, and behavior the 3 C's where born. They are as follows:
1. Control your thoughts
2. Challenge your feelings
3. Change your behavior
If individuals can learn through practice to incorporate the 3 C's I believe there is great opportunity for change and greater emotional health.
In comming posts I will explore this idea in more depth.