Do they want your time?
I will propose what the people closest to you really want is to feel safe. If the people around you want any of the things that I listed above is because it makes them feel safe. In relationships the assurance of safety will get you further than anything.
If you want to have outstanding relationships with your wife and children find out what makes them feel safe and do it!
I can assure you that actions like yelling, name calling, and outbursts of anger will not insure safety and therefore damage relationships.
In turn; calmness, words of affirmation, and speaking their love language will get you everything you have ever wanted from your relationships.