This thing is suffering and the ability to do appropriately.
We as a culture expend so much energy trying to avoid the unavoidable that when it eventually happens many of us are caught off guard and flounder in life afterward.
I am involved time and time again in conversations where life has happened. Unfairness of life has raised its ugly head and more and more often I am seeing where individuals see themselves as victims.
Here is the truth. When life happens to us we are not victims. We are normal. We are average people who are experiencing the unfairness and harshness of life.
The question then becomes: When we experience life and it’s cold harsh realities how should we handle it?
First we need to realize that life is hard and suffering is not relegated to the few. Accepting the fact that life is hard will allow us to not be so surprised when times of suffering come around.
Secondly as previously stated we should recognize that life is not fair. When we stop expecting life to be fair the suffering process becomes much shorter and more succinct.
Thirdly we need to engage in the process of suffering not as victims but as individuals who are willing to grow by molded and shaped into new people.
Lastly we should remember that engaging in the process of suffering brings about resilience, wisdom, and the power to transform not only our lives and the lives of others.