As a counselor I am continously contemplating change and the process of change.
There are many variables in the change process; there are also different stages of the change process.
It has been said that change is one of the most difficult tasks to accomplish. Change seems to be so difficult because it tends to be a very scary proposition.
Leaving old ways behind, adopting and adapting new ways for most people is frieghtening and comes with a great deal of anxiety.
Many people clearly see the need for change and even have the desire to change and still struggle to change.
Recently I have been having conversations about change and the difficulties that lay therein.
One of the comming themes that I am comming across is that often times even when individuals can see the need and have the desire for change they often don't take responsibility for there actions.
Often times individuals simply are not honest with themselves and therefore are not honest with others.
Taking responsibility for ones thoughts, feelings, and behaviors is a crucial step in the change process. Without this individuals may be involved in the change process for others and not for themselves and their own wellbeing.
Taking responsibility for ones actions is a crucial step in being an adult. Let's face it. Many individuals who fail to emotionally and psychologically enter into adulthood are often in need of significant change in their lives. Whether it be changes in actions, attitudes, habits, thinking and so on.
If you are in the process of contemplating change. Ask yourself. What do I need to step up and take responsibility for?
You may find the answer to be a very helpful key for your change to take root.