Today I finished watching a documentary entitled, “Absent”. This documentary is the discussion of what the writers and producers would call a pandemic of absent fathers and what it means for children to grow up in a home without a dad being either physically or emotionally present.
As I have more and more young clients walk through my door and sit in my therapy room two of the most common factors are divorce and absent fathers.
When fathers are physically and emotionally absent there are significant voids in a child’s life. One of the most significant is identity. Fathers help both boys and girls begin to answer the question of Who Am I? might be the most significant question that human beings ask in life.
So when fathers are absent children enter into an identity crisis and when children repeatedly ask the same questions without an acceptable answer anger ensues.
I cannot emphasize enough the importance of the father in the emotional and psychological development of children.
Even in divorce situations it is crucial for fathers to be ever present and involved; to help give security and shape the identity of his children.
I encourage all fathers today to engage! To re-engage! To become an intimate positive role model in the lives of your children. Even if you have made epic mistakes it may not be too late. For the sake of your children and the future wellbeing of our nation be a dad.