Our youngest daughter plays soccer. She plays the positions of goal keeper and mid fielder. At the age of 10 she is really coming into her own on the soccer field. It is great to see her develop her skills and become more and more comfortable in her positions.
Here’s the thing just as viola’s and soccer balls are different from each other so are our children. Both of our girls have different talents, strengths, weaknesses, personalities, likes, dislikes and so on. It would profit us greatly to know our children inside and out.
Case in point: the other day our youngest’s soccer coach walked up to me and asked me, “How do I motivate her to be more aggressive?” My joking response was, “When you figure that out let me know!” Then in all seriousness I said, “This is what I do know. The harder you push to slower she will go.”
Because I have studied my girls I do know what motivates them and what inhibits them. I know their “love language”. I know what frustrates them. I know what makes them smile. Just as you studied your spouse when you first met and eventually knew them as well as you knew yourself. You must know your children with such an intimacy that you know them better than they know themselves.
It is in this intimacy that they will thrive because there is an unmeasured security.